Friendships...

What do you feel when when what's going on in your head resonates with  somebody else's writings. The solace in the fact that you are not alone. The fact that it's normal to have some expectations from friends. And the urge to post them verbatim on your blog :P.


"In a certain way I am sticking to my subject with all that about friends and connections. You see, I've heard of a man whose friend had been imprisoned and who slept on the floor of his room every night in order not to enjoy a comfort of which his friend had been deprived. Who, cher monsieur, will sleep on the floor for us? Whether I am capable of it myself? Look, I'd like to be and I shall be. Yes, we shall all be capable of it one day, and that will be salvation. But it's not easy, for friendship is absent-minded or at least unavailing.
It is incapable of achieving what it wants. Maybe, after all, it doesn't want it enough? Maybe we don't love life enough? Have you noticed that death alone awakens our feelings? How we love the friends who have just left us? How we admire those of our teachers who have ceased to speak, their mouths filled with earth! Then the expression of admiration springs forth naturally, that admiration they were perhaps expecting from us all their lives. But do you know why we are always more just and more generous toward the dead? The reason is simple. With them there is no obligation. They leave us free and we can take our time, fit the testimonial in between a cocktail party and a nice little mistress, in our spare time, in short. If they forced us to anything, it would be to remembering, and we have a short memory. No, it is the recently dead we love among our friends, the painful dead, our emotion, ourselves after all!" -Excerpts from "The Fall", a novel by ALBERT CAMUS, Nobel Prize Winner

But does that make it a dark cloud without a silver lining? Most of the friendships sink with the tides of change. Some even when the geographical distances are literally infinitesimal. But the very few that have grown deeper irrespective of the geographical distances are the ones which still make me believe  in F.R.I.E.N.D.S!